Real Reason you continue to have the same patterns in relationships - Tips from a Life and Relationship Coach

Happy Summer! I am getting geared up this week for the 4th of July, celebrations here in the states. The 4th of July makes me think of freedom! I know that I treasure my freedom to be myself and to have sovereignty over my life and to create the life that I desire.

What gets in the way of having that life you desire?

You might be asking yourself this question in an area you feel stuck in no matter what you do.

Maybe you have been working on yourself for a long time…., doing personal development work, building your skills and analyzing your patterns. These damn patterns seem so tenacious and creep back in no matter how hard you work on them. Argh!

It shows up when you are attracting another unavailable man, or you continue to have the same fight over and over again with your love partner, or you see how you shrink time and time again around friends and really dont’ be yourself or you keep getting passed over in your job or can’t hit the mark in your sales.

You probably know your issues backwards and forwards. You know what happened in childhood and the effect it has on you. You maybe even know the beliefs that were formed by what happened to you but can’t seem to move beyond that to stop the patterns.

You have done therapy, affirmations and positive thinking, and you are making progress but it seems slow.

You are looking for a radical breakthrough in that one area of your life that you are feeling stuck in.

The missing link to evolve past the pattern you are having is releasing it through the body, not the mind.

And I will explain more here now, just give me a few minutes and follow along.

Did you know that 80% of your experience comes from information that already exists in your brain? It is your own interpretive lens. This lens was created at a very young age from your conditioning and programming. You had experiences happen at a very young age and you made it mean something about yourself, people and life. .

For example, maybe you came home from school and drew this pretty picture and you excitedly tried to show your Dad and he was distracted and busy, and you made it mean that you don’t matter, others aren’t there for me, and life is sad and lonely.

This stuck with you in your subconscious as an adult and is running the show. It is part of your identity now and you may not even know it.

The subconscious likes to be right and continues to prove it over and over again that the belief is correct. .

This was a common pattern in my own relationships with men. I continued to date men that did not want a commitment to me, even though I said that was what I wanted.

I discovered that my belief was that “I am not important.” and thus I chose men that did not really want a commitment. I already believed that I wasn’t important in my subconscious and the subconscious proves it right but dating men that did not treat me as such.

Seems a little crazy right?

And this can show up in any kind of relationship with your love partner, career, friends and family.

You could have a belief that you are not supported or heard and that happened at a young age and now you don't even bother to ask for help and blame others for not supporting you or are overly self sufficient and not able to receive.

You could have a belief that you don't feel safe from childhood trauma and get real anxious and have fears of setting boundaries for yourself. You feel the world is unsafe, and thus prove that right in the choices you make.

All of these examples are beliefs you have from your childhood experiences that are running the show.

So we have to go within and look at what interpretation you made through your childhood experiences and how you are responding and making choices through those interpretations.

This lies in the wisdom of the body.

Emotions and feelings are connected to those interpretations that were made. Emotions of sadness, anxiety, anger, overwhelm, ect.

The emotions and feelings are connected to our nervous system and sensations in our body like a tight chest, sick feeling in our stomach, and tight throat.

These beliefs and interpretations feel true in our bodies.

This is where the healing and releasing takes place - in the body. It is that whole connection with the body, mind and soul.

You can’t do one without the other and why typical therapy, reading books, or mindset exercises don’t always work to the extent of transforming and creating the life you desire.

This is how I help my clients to release and heal those recurring patterns that don’t seem to go away no matter what they do.

I want you to know it’s possible for you to break through that glass ceiling in an area where you feel totally stuck and I hope you see it too!

It would be an honor to help you to this next step.

OPTION 1: Releasing Patterns Session -Virtually or Vortex Energy of Sedona, Arizona

Looking to release a stuck pattern that you can’t seem to transform? We will explore and reveal those interpretations, beliefs, and wounds associated with those emotions in your body. We then release those trapped emotions in the body associated with those interpretations with a powerful somatic tool that you will have for a lifetime. You will feel lighter, peaceful and empowered. This is a 90 minute session with a 30 minute follow-up . The cost is $300.00 If you need some help with a scholarship for this session, let me know.

OPTION 2: Personalized VIP Intensive -

Looking to have more time together like 30, 60 or 90 days to transform your stuck patterns in life and relationships, uplevel your communication skills, and create what you want in your life? This is great if you need more accountability and top-level support. We can discuss this on a complimentary discovery call here to personalize it to your situation. https://calendly.com/kimquickcoaching/session

OPTION 3: Nature Healing on Red Rocks -

 A personalized spiritual journey amidst the powerful Sedona vortex red rock energy.   We will journey into the healing red rocks of Sedona that are life changing and personalized to you.  You will experience a deeper connection to yourself and nature with guidance of mindfulness, meditation, breathwork and energy healing  to release limiting beliefs and heal wounds to feel a deep inner peace, empowerment, and rejuvenation to bring forward in your life.  These are for individual sessions, couples and groups.  They are typically 2.5-3 hours which includes the round trip of the hike/walk into Red Rocks.  The cost for an individual session is $250.00, couples is $300.00 and groups add on $50 per person to the individual rate of $250.00​