4 Tips on How To Handle Conflicts in Relationships - Tips from a Life and Relationship Coach

Healthy love relationships that run smoothly lead to a fulfilling and joyful life all around.

You may have disagreements, but you still have goodwill toward one another and are able to talk things over, resolve conflicts, create win-win experiences, and return to a loving, enjoyable state between each other.

One of the top areas that cause conflicts in a relationship is not only to share how you feel and what you need but to also feel heard, seen, and valued.

Maybe you are afraid to share how your really feel or need because of conflict or consequences.

Maybe you tried sharing your feelings and needs only to be dismissed, criticized, undermined, or maybe even manipulated?

We can hope that the person and/or relationship will change.

And what is going to give you power and feel confident, is for you to make some changes on your end first.

Because we know that is it not useful of energy to try to get someone to change.

We do have the opportunity for us to change, and we can show up differently on how we are interacting with our partner or how we are dating, and that can open changes in having the fulfilling life and relationship you desire.

I know it can feel challenging at times and I also know through my 10 years’ experience in coaching relationships for single women and couples that the principles that I am outlining below make a huge impact.  

1)      Deeply connect within yourself and what is important to you by identifying your values, desires, and inspirations.   You want to write this down and be very clear.  If you don’t’ know this, how will you be able to articulate your desires and needs?  How will you be able to set boundaries if you don’t know what those boundaries are? 

2)      Create a roadmap (step by step plan) on being able to create the desired life and relationships that you desire and deserve.  The plan could be that again what boundaries do I want to set?  What desires do I want to fulfill and what will that look like?  What conversations will I have?  What are some areas of my life I may have to start saying no to and start saying yes to other areas?  

3)      The inner work of learning and releasing self-sabotaging beliefs and triggers.  This is two fold in that it is important that you know your triggers or wounds so that you can heal them and be able to respond to experiences vs reacting to them.    Also, your beliefs are running the show of your life and creating the choices you are making in relationships and how you are responding to people in relationships.   It is also very important to learn how to move through those emotions and one of the most effective ways of doing that is through the body somatically.

4)      Learning communication skills on how to share your feelings, desires, and needs in an empowering and deeply connected way.

These are the steps at a high level of how I take my clients that are arguing a lot and feeling disconnected to feeling fulfilled, loving, and in harmony with each other.

If you like to learn these steps at a deeper level so that you can have your relationship being where you want it to be, there are various ways for us to work together…

In person here in Vortex Healing Energy of Sedona, Arizona

Retreats on The Red Rocks for Couples in Sedona  -  A customized retreat/sessions for couples who want to identify beliefs that impact your emotions and triggers,  release pain and resentments that each one is holding on to, build up the love you have for each other to levels when you first connected, learn communication skills, and create unity, harmony and a deeper connection with your partner filled with love.  You will then create a sacred ceremony to  release the past and step into a bright future more aligned together.  All of this is done in the spectacular backdrop of Sedona’s famous red rocks.   I can personalized this retreat and/or session for you.

Not able to come to Sedona? We can do the above sessions virtually.