Simple Step to Get Your Needs Met in Relationship from a Life and Relationship Coach

​You can't have a healthy relationships or a healthy life without having boundaries.

Healthy boundaries define what is appropriate behavior in our relationships.

When you create boundaries it sets both people up for success in a relationship.

But let’s first understand what boundaries are.

Boundaries can be limits we identify for ourselves, and apply through action or communication.

Boundaries can be identified as our needs, values and desires.

It is important to first know your needs, values and desires. (as I mentioned in my last two emails as you see it all ties together)

And sometimes we don't know what we need until we are in situations that bring forth feelings or emotions.

That is why it is so important to pay attention to your feelings and emotions vs pushing them down and suppressing them.

For example, my husband and I work from home. He would visit me in my office throughout the day interrupting me when I was focusing on writing my newsletters. I found myself getting irritated every time he would drop in to communicate something to me and I could not be 100% present with him. I took some time to think about it later. What was really going on with me? I sat with myself and tuned into my body. What am I feeling here? What else am I feeling? What is a need that I am not expressing here? Then I thought to myself ok, I need to set a boundary here. I need to put up a sign that says “do not disturb for the next two hours” and share that with my husband that I will be doing that.

So we can see that a way to set boundaries is to first connect to your feelings and emotion in our bodies and ask yourself the question: "What do I really need here?"

Then you can communicate it in a kind and respectful manner.

Otherwise, when we continue to bottle up your feelings and emotions, and push them down, we can be very reactive and/or passive aggressive with your emotions.

Remember - Feelings and Emotions Are Telling You Something That You Need!

What to practice this week? Whenever you feel an emotion coming up, take time to tune in and ask yourself the question, What do I Need? Then, you may need to share this with the person.

If you find yourself struggling in this area, then you may need professional support. That is ok, everyone needs help and/or support in life. I can help you have a profound transformational and tools to last a lifetime virtually or in Sedona. Click Here to schedule some time together. :)
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xoxo Kim Quick www.kimquickcoaching.com

Certified Life and Relationship Coach providing transformative experiences in Sedona or Virtually.